You can't pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself

There's no shame in asking for help...
A phrase we hear thrown a lot these days is "self care" this blog is going to focus on what that is and how to make it a part of your life. Browsing IG you might see #selfcare loaded with pictures of lux bubble baths, spa days and a variety of expensive and "fancy" things. Self care can very well include these things but it doesn't have to. Self care doesn't need to cost a ton and it means different things for different people. Some ways to practice self care without spending a dime include:
-saying no to a commitment you don't want to do
-being sure to drink enough H2O/feed yourself
-going to bed early
-making time to call a friend and chat them up
-spending a few extra minutes in the shower
It really doesn't need to be complicated. 
As moms (or parents) selflessness is praised, the mom doing it all is like a super hero. We don't seem to acknowledge how exhausting and unsatisfying parenthood can be. How that "super mom" might be neglecting herself to get it all done. You can't pour from an empty cup though, eventually all that selflessness can catch up to you. Hello mental breakdown! Maybe it's not a full blown breakdown that will happen from over extending yourself but even a lingering cold or headache can really bring you down when you're not caring for yourself. Your family will fair better if you say no to the PTA's request that you make 1000000 cupcakes tonight or if you decide to call it an early bedtime so you can watch your favorite show and decompress. If we hope to raise well rounded people we need to teach them how to practice self care, no better way to do that than to lead by example. Our kids need to know that it's okay to be over it, tired or to not feel okay. It's how we react to those "bad" feelings that makes or break us. Sometimes doing nothing is the best thing we can do. Self care and mental health are intertwined and we can't talk about one without the other. We hold up the idea hat moms do it all and are always exhausted and tired but it doesn't have to be that way. I'd much rather us look up to the mom who says "no" when she needs to. The mom who skips a night of gymnastics because shes too tired and has her partner do it for once. We take so much on and seem to feel very guilty about doing any less than everything. We have to let go of that guilt, for our own sake and for our families. Guilt holds us back, it clouds our better judgement. There is no shame in taking care of yourself. There is no sham is saying no. If you take anything from this blog let it be those to things. 
Take care of yourselves :D Parenthood is a marathon not a sprint so take it slow. Say no when you need to.